Veeksha's Vibes

As much as I agree with Tannen’s claim that women are always scrutinized at any given moment, I do disagree with the fact that we have to care about how we are perceived. I don’t understand why people find it so hard to not let it affect them. Everyone has a life and about a few thousand things going on at once, I’m pretty sure they don’t have the time or energy to care about how you dress or the way you do your hair. I have never really cared about how I dress unless it was for an important occasion like a party (birthday party or huge Indian extended family party) because that is a setting where people put in time and effort to plan so that everyone has a good time. Dressing well will show them that I appreciate and care about their effort.  Additionally, I do understand the importance of clothing and hair in workplaces. Most workplaces will have a dress code that makes you look more professional, and if you truly want to work there, you will want to dress the part. For example, ...

    Joe's mother is violently raped in the beginning of the novel. When he is trying to make sense of what actually happened, he doesn't understand the intensity of the issues, in fact, he doesn't even know exactly how serious rape is. When he asks his aunt if his mother was raped she just says "yes" and after elaborating further she says " -it's more complicated," and leaves it at that. She doesn't allow Joe to get the full scope of the event which keeps him naive to the topic.      His view is then further blurred by Bazil (joe's father). Joe begins to ask more questions at dinner, "What evidence do you have that this one guy did it? My father considered not answering. I could tell. But he finally did. He had trouble saying some of the words." Bazil then proceeds to tell him information that doesn't add up to the facts of the crime. It's almost solid proof that Bazil is lying to protect him.     Joe is only 13 and it makes...